Dan Savage talks about emotions, gender and sex. “The culture tells women that if they are having sex for pleasure that there’s something wrong with them, that they’re bad people, that they’re sluts”  -Kira

“Dear daughter – You should know that you are hated.” Read this heartbreaking letter from a mother to a daughter (and to the world). I think the message of “just ignore it and be awesome” is a bit facile, but the author’s love for her daughter, and her anger on her daughter’s behalf, come through loud and clear.  -Jess

Two short but sweet links from tumblr: this excellent post on tumblr looks at why it’s complete crap when men accuse women of making sexism “personal”. And this tumblr here has a fantastic post on why feminism is very much needed in geek spaces. – wundergeek

This much longer piece looks at sexism in the tech industry and why it’s a big deal, but could really be applied to sexism in any male-dominated subculture. It’s not perfect, there are some bits that have a whiff of slut-shaming, but overall it’s a fantastic breakdown of privilege in the tech industry and how it affects real-people. A definite must-read, if you’ve got some time on your hands. -wundergeek

A few weeks ago, Ms. Magazine blog featured an extremely problematic essay framing trans feminism as a controversial and debate-worthy sub-movement of feminism. Controversial, I suppose, if you really believe trans* women somehow have privilege over cis women, or that cissexism doesn’t really exist, or that there’s nothing about being trans* that requires special consideration. Fortunately, trans feminist Julia Serano was on hand to school everyone on the nature of intersectionality. Now if only we could get Julia to talk about non-binary identities a bit more. – Renee

Last Sunday, the amazing Melissa Harris-Perry mediated a nicely smart discussion of transgender issues in America. It wasn’t perfect – with the exception of Melissa herself, the panel was extremely monochromatic, and for some reason cis journalist Allison Kilkenny was given space on it – but it did delve into a lot of issues rarely discussed in big media, including the injustice circling Ce Ce McDonald, the greater LGB community’s questionable relationship with the T, and an explanation of the word “cisgender”. Not bad.  - Renee

Think Progress guest blogger Alli Thresher discusses what happened over at The Oatmeal, and how women gamers used their voices to make actual change. I think her a conclusion is a little too easy, but this is definitely a piece of interest to women who game. – Renee

We all love Kickstarter, right? This story, about a woman whose accounted was suspended because it generated too much spam from a cyber-stalker, is enough to give a person pause. Fortunately, Rachel Marone’s account has been reactivated, but has Kickstarter learned anything from the debacle? – Renee